Giving crosses to children
As salaamu alaykum,
There is a brother who is now reverted to islaam for 5 months.
Few years ago when his mother died, he got from his mother a necklace with a christian cross as heritage. And he promised his mother to that he also will give it away to his children as heritage.
Now as he has reverted to islaam, what he has to do with the necklace? Currenly he is keeping it in his house in a box. Can he keep this and give it later to his children.
The necklace is a heritage piece which is over 200 years in the family.
Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
Alhamdulillaahi was salaatu was salaamu `alaa Rasoolillaahi wa `alaa aalihi wa sahbihi wa man waalaahu, wa ba`d:
Wa `alaykumus salaam.
The cross is a symbol of kufr, and it not befitting for a muslim to have any part of it.
Hadhrat `Aa’ishah Radhiallaahu `Anhaa said: “Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam would not leave anything in his house which had a cross on it but that he (Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam) would cut it (i.e. destroy the cross).” – Authentic, from Sunan Abu Daawood. [i]
There’s a very lengthy Hadeeth which Imaam al-Bukhaari Rahimahullaah reports in his Saheeh from Hadhrat `Amr Ibn `Abasah Radhiallaahu `Anhu, in that Hadeeth Hadhrat `Amr asked Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam: “With what have you been sent?” He (Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam) replied: “I have been sent to uphold family ties, and to destroy idols, and so that Allaah alone may be worshipped without any partners.” – Authentic, from Saheeh Al-Bukhaari. [ii]
The cross too is one of those idols that is worshipped besides Allaah, that is one of the reasons why it will be finally destroyed by `Eesaa `Alayhis Salaam.
Hadhrat Abu Hurayrah Radhiallaahu `Anhu narrates that Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam said: “The hour shall not come until `Eesaa Ibn Maryam (`Alayhimas Salaam) descends amongst you as a just ruler, then he will break the cross and kill the pigs, and abolish Jizyah, and wealth will overflow until there is no one to accept it.” – Authentic, from Saheeh Al-Bukhaari. [iii]
As for his promise to his mother that he would give it to his children, then such a promise may not be fulfilled.
Hadhrat `Aa’ishah Radhiallaahu `Anhaa narrates that Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam said: “Whoever vows to obey Allaah then let him obey Him, and whoever vows to disobey Him then let him not disobey Him.” – Authentic, from Saheeh Al-Bukhaari. [iv]
Hadhrat `Aa’ishah Radhiallaahu `Anhaa narrates that Rasoolullaah Sallallaahu `Alayhi Wa Sallam said: “There is no vow in disobedience (i.e. it is invalid) and its expiation is Kaffaaratul Yameen.” – Authentic, from Sunan An-Nasaa’i. [v]
So in conclusion, he may not give it to his children, nor can he retain it as a cross. But rather he should break the shape of the cross. If it is made of something like gold or silver then he may melt it down and it will then be permissible to keep or use.
And Allaah knows best.
Ubaidullah Ibn Adam Aal-Ebrahim.
Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Rashid Ahmed Moosagie.
Wednesday 10th Dhul Hijjah 1434 – 16th October 2013.
[i]عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا، «أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ لَا يَتْرُكُ فِي بَيْتِهِ شَيْئًا فِيهِ تَصْلِيبٌ إِلَّا قَضَبَهُ». – رواه الإمام أبو داود رحمه الله في سننه.
[ii]فَقُلْتُ: وَبِأَيِّ شَيْءٍ أَرْسَلَكَ، قَالَ: «أَرْسَلَنِي بِصِلَةِ الْأَرْحَامِ، وَكَسْرِ الْأَوْثَانِ، وَأَنْ يُوَحَّدَ اللهُ لَا يُشْرَكُ بِهِ شَيْءٌ». – رواه الإمام اللبخاري رحمه الله في صحيحه.
[iii]سَمِعَ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «لاَ تَقُومُ السَّاعَةُ حَتَّى يَنْزِلَ فِيكُمْ ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ حَكَمًا مُقْسِطًا، فَيَكْسِرَ الصَّلِيبَ، وَيَقْتُلَ الخِنْزِيرَ، وَيَضَعَ الجِزْيَةَ، وَيَفِيضَ المَالُ، حَتَّى لاَ يَقْبَلَهُ أَحَدٌ». – رواه الإمام اللبخاري رحمه الله في صحيحه.
[iv]عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «مَنْ نَذَرَ أَنْ يُطِيعَ اللَّهَ فَلْيُطِعْهُ، وَمَنْ نَذَرَ أَنْ يَعْصِيَهُ فَلاَ يَعْصِهِ». – رواه الإمام اللبخاري رحمه الله في صحيحه.